A: Interesting choice of words you used here. The neat thing about language is the words we use out here are an accurate representation of the words and thoughts on the inside.
I want you to think about something. Take the word "defense" or the phrase "defending myself," and notice what kind of image it puts in your mind. You may see a stronger and more powerful you, that's true. But now consider for a moment, what kind of energy fuels that image and those words. Notice where that stems from? Where is the source of that fuel? And when you get in tune with that place, do you feel that you are resonating at a high frequency or a low frequency?
Energy and attraction and vibrations, these concepts aren't cognitive; they're 100% kinesthetic. When you start seeing the world in dichotomies or polarities, such as them and us, offense and defense, the balance, the middle ground disappears. And before you know it, you are on an emotional rollercoaster ride with no hands on the control lever.
To get centered, to start vibrating at those high frequencies, you have to let the battle go. That doesn't mean you lay down like a doormat. You certainly stand up for yourself, but from a place of strength and grace and love; the places where fear doesn't exist, the place where ego doesn't exist. Find your "self" in that "between-ness." And then, and only then will you really begin to resonate at those high frequencies. Ooh, and then they better watch out. Manifestation time!!!
-Oz