I seem to recall a movie my cousin had seen awhile back, which was a love story with some twists and turns. But there was this one part where this guy who is head over heels obsessed with this girl...the girl of his dreams, this goddess that nothing can compare to...until he comes across this one incident. I am not sure if you have had one of those kinds of experiences when...well for example, I woke up in the middle of the night, and saw this shadow on the wall. And it looked liked this huge spider crawling down the wall. Now the problem was that the light was coming from behind me, so I couldn't tell if it was on the wall or if it was its shadow and that might mean that it is right above my head.

Then all of a sudden something fell on my head and I popped out of that bed so fast, you'd think I was made of rubber. I had literally bounced so far back, I was almost no longer in the room. Standing next to the light switch, I cautiously turned it on. Sometimes a little bit of light can put things in a different perspective. And a little bit of perspective is quite useful when facing some fear, or better known as False Evidence Appearing Real. So I slowly walked over to take a look at what had just ruined my comfortable night's rest. And wouldn't you believe it. I know I couldn't. I come to find out that all it was, was this little tassel hanging off the edge of the headboard. That little thing had been the disturbance all along. But I guess sometimes just knowing that and facing it can be a load off. Now I could once again enjoy a lovely night's rest.

So how does one really experience love? It is a process. Perhaps one that surrounds us. Think about it. We always say we are in love. What about times when we are out of love? Can you order more? What about through love? Some people say they are through with love, but that is different from through love. Through love means there are at least two sides to it. I say at least two, because you may be under love, or even over love. Then there is the time of love. Or from love. That may be familiar as well. Before love. After love. Loved once. Love again.

Time is an interesting thing. Some people keep their past too close to their future, and they can't completely move into the future without bumping into the past. It is one thing to learn from your mistakes, but it becomes just cruel punishment to have to deal with it over and over again. Once you get the lesson, it is time to put the past where it belongs, that's right, behind you. So that now you can begin to see clearly this future that lies ahead, with new hope, a new sense of curiosity...hmmm! And move forward in a new way.

And so what if you end up forgetting about things that are no longer important. Can you remember to remember that, and more importantly the things that are important, so well that you can eventually forget how to do that, yet forget to forget in such a way that you only remember, just how it once again feels to meet someone new. And see, hear, feel, taste, and smell them as they are. As they truly are, and just that. No more. No less. Can you try everything to forget to remember only that, and as long as you remember that you really will be just fine.

You see when after that incident he could no longer look at her in the same way again. Something was different. Not sure just yet, quite what it was. Now he began seeing others for the first time. He knew they had been there the whole time, but somehow had managed to make them disappear. And boy was he surprised. "Wow! Look at all these girls. I can't believe I let myself miss out on all these opportunities. But that is it. No more. It is time for me to ante up and play another hand. Who knows what I'll win this time."

Now you had asked me a question of some sort, about something that may had been a problem of some sort. When you think about it now, and perhaps even chuckle, can you begin to see the humor in it? I think back to all the girls I had met before I met my wife, and I thank God that my wife doesn't have so many of those qualities I once thought were important. Did my wife change? Sure, a bit. But more importantly, I did. So something to ask yourself might be; those qualities you once thought were important, do they still hold true? Are you filtering potential suitors through old criteria? Is that fair to them? Is it fair to you? At the end of the day we create our own realities. The man you were once with, probably had many qualities, you just noticed those few. That says more about you than him. What qualities interest you in a man now? If you look for what you want, you just might find it? And on the flip side, if you look for what you don't want, you'll find that too.

So with that I bid you farewell. Happy Hunting!


-Oz