One of the quickest and most effective ways to accomplish this is with the use of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). Although, there are many NLP and hypnotic processes to achieve your outcome, EFT takes care of it the quickest. Aside from speed, it is also quite thorough.

Below you will find an outline of a shortcut EFT process that I use personally. Although, this process is quite effective, I would still recommend the assistance of an experienced practitioner to ensure lasting results and thoroughness. The problem cannot be solved at the level of the problem; hence having another person provides a unique problem-free perspective. And in many cases, that can be the difference that makes the difference. EFT is quite simple to administer and most practitioners can utilize this technique over the phone if necessary.

IMAGE: First begin by holding an image of that sad memory in your mind. It doesn"t matter if it is clear or not, just enough to sense that it is there.

TRIGGER PHRASE: Then, as you think of this sad memory, come up with a statement that best reflects your feeling about it. Example: "I am/feel ..." (sad, depressed, upset, etc.)

DISTURBANCE GAUGE: Then, put a numeric value on it. 0-10. TEN being the worst, and ZERO feeling totally neutral about it. Where is it at when you look at that image and say your trigger phrase, 0-10?

BREAK STATE: Shake off this state. Say your home phone number aloud and backwards. Get up and move around if necessary.

INSTALLATION PHRASE: Create a phrase that states how you would like to feel about this memory and any similar future events. Example: "I can respect and appreciate all the experiences I live through...", "I am a stronger and more informed person now...", "I can choose to respond in a way that most empowers me..."

VALIDITY GAUGE: Now gauge this installation phrase on a level of 1-5. ONE being "completely false" and FIVE being "completely true." Choose an installation phrase that scores at least a 4 or a 5. The installation phrase will be examined again after you administer the tapping.

TAPPING SEQUENCE: Begin by tapping on each point while repeating the "trigger phrase". You may tap on these points using any two fingers. Tap with a comfortable amount of force. Tap each point between 5-7 times. The point sequence is as follows:

• Inside eyebrow of either eye
• Side of either eye
• Under either eye
• Under the nose
• Under the bottom lip
• Trace your finger down one inch below the "U" formed by the collar bones (center of chest), and then one inch over on each side of the center line (Tap on both points)
• Four inches below the armpit
• Crown of the head
  

EYE MOVEMENTS: After the tapping, take your two fingers and trace a large circle out in front of you and let your eyes follow gently behind your fingers. First trace a circle clockwise, then counterclockwise, then a figure 8, then a figure 8 on its side or an infinity symbol.

TEST: Check to see where you are at on the "disturbance gauge". Did it go down? Up? Or no change?

BODY SCAN # 1: Close your eyes, hold that image of that memory in your mind, and do a quick body scan to get a full gauge of any disturbance.

REPEAT IF NECESSARY: If needed, go through the tapping and eye movement sequence until your disturbance gauge is down to zero or one.

VALIDITY CHECK: Check to see how you gauge your installation phrase now. Is it a 4 or a 5, yet? If necessary, you can reword it to make it a 4 or a 5.

INSTALLATION: Run through the tapping sequence and eye movements repeating the installation phrase.

BODY SCAN # 2: Close your eyes again. Hold that image in your mind again, but this time with the new installation phrase. And notice how your whole body feels with this image and statement in mind.

TEST AGAIN: If any discomfort arises during the second body scan, repeat the whole process on this new feeling. Otherwise, test this new installation by making images of other similar instances or even movies of such events and notice how your response is different.

This is a quick rundown on how I sometimes use EFT. There are many other ways and variations. You may want to pick up Gary Craig"s (creator of EFT) video set to get it right from the source. This is an excellent way to begin.

Please contact me if you have any questions with this process or any general comments.


-Oz