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NLP and Fear

Q: Does NLP work with trying to overcome a certain fear?--Anonymous

A: Before I answer your question, let me ask which would interest you more. The question you ask implies that the fear is still there, but you have just overcome it. Removing the fear completely is an all together different result. NLP can be used for either outcome. So my next question based on your question is do you feel that you need to keep the fear for any particular reason?

-Oz

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Definition of Hypnosis

Q: Definition of hypnotism?--Anonymous

A: Hypnosis is a focused state of concentration directed inward. In this state, a person may experience mental and physical relaxation as well. This state also alters the brainwave frequencies.

-Oz

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Possibility Thinking

Q: Hi, you have some really wonderful answers to the other questions. So, I have come to you today for my chance of getting to ask you this... I had one fallopian tube removed and my ovary isn't in working condition. I would really love to have another child. Do you think it is possible for us to have another child?--Anonymous

A: If you are looking for a prediction, I can't give you that. The only thing I can offer is possibility thinking. Since you still have one fallopian tube and your ovaries haven't been removed, then the focus needs to be on getting your system to work in harmony again. If you want to contact me directly, we can talk more about this. Also if you want to read about how some people have made remarkable health recoveries, then get a copy of How People Heal by Diane Goldner. As a reporter, she provides objective insight into health and healing.

-Oz

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Choosing to Respond Instead of Reacting

Q: I recently started dating a girlfriend again (we used to date before, broke up but decided things went too crazy so we're going to try it again). One of the problems we had before, and since we've gotten back together, it still happens - is she can be a very negative person. If we go out and have a good night, like last night we went to a hockey game and out to eat afterwards, she always finds something to critique about the game, dinner, etc. Maybe it's me and my own issue or insecurity but I feel like nothing we could do or anything I could say or do will be good enough - it feels like perfection is all that she'll accept, even though no one or no situation is. Any ideas on what I can do? Other than this issue, she is a good person and someone I could see marrying but this one thing really bothers me. There doesn't seem to be a trigger for it and I'm not sure if she's aware she's doing it... Can I do something about this with NLP?--Anonymous

A: Well the most obvious first step would be to ask her if she is aware of what she is saying and if she knows how that is making you feel. From an NLP perspective, I would ask you, is her behavior the problem or is your reaction to her behavior the problem. With NLP tools, you can alter your reaction to her behavior. This way whether the trigger is there or not, you have a choice as to how you would like to respond.

-Oz

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Mastering NLP Language Patterns

Q: What are the good books to master NLP language patterns, including sleight of mouth? Most of them do not give variety of examples-They just repeat the same ones!--Anonymous

A: If you really want to master NLP language patterns, stop reading the books. Do the following for one, and then repeat for each pattern. Take one pattern and write out 10 examples. For example, cause-effect. Write out ten cause and effect statements. For Sleight of Mouth patterns, do the same. Write a cause-effect or complex equivalence and then 10 of one specific SOM pattern. 10 Apply to Self, 10 Meta-frames, etc...

Then watch some soap operas that you don't like. And really listen for each pattern. Remember focus on one pattern a week. Also, and here's the most important part, notice which language patterns you normally use. And pay close attention to find out if your normal unconscious language empowers you or makes you a victim.

Most people learn NLP language patterns to use on other people, and hardly ever look at their own language patterns. Mastery means you get good at both, self and others. Your own language patterns will reveal so much about you that you can spend a good bit of time cleaning up limitations in yourself.

If you find that you have trouble hearing a specific pattern, then there is a good chance, that you are victim to it. It's the one others can use with you without any resistance. It slips right in. Move from the books to actual experience. This is the first step to mastery.

-Oz

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Consciously Practicing

Q: I did a NLP course and use what I learned every day! Until it gets personal. I met a man, we get on and there is a possibility of something solid. We are both independent and he has other people in his life. He leaves for 10 days away shortly, he is hesitating as to whether to see me again when he returns, it's a 70% in favor of it! I have an email to respond to of his in which I would like to be able to get him to ring me before he leaves. And how can I without making an issue of it, in that call, get him to agree it would be madness not to even try to see where it takes us.--Anonymous

A: Quite often, people will learn certain skills and consciously practice them...until they are around close friends and family. It is much easier to get sucked into the drama at that point. And the conscious attention shifts back to automatic pilot.

I don't have enough information to give you a how. The best thing to do is to pay attention to what your previous strategy has been, and choose to do something else. You might also want to consider what will happen if you don't get to give it another chance. Use the tools of NLP that you have learned to clean up negative feelings that this possibility triggers in you. When you have two people involved, that means two decisions, and two choosers. Are both of you choosing freely or are either of you taking the other's free will away? In relationships, the earlier and cleaner the boundaries are, the healthier the relationship will be.

-Oz

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NLP and Fear
Definition of Hypnosis
Possibility Thinking
Choosing to Respond Instead of Reacting
Mastering NLP Language Patterns
Consciously Practicing
Importance of Knowing Your Strategy
Hypnosis as a Business
Thinking Things Through Before Making Decisions
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